Over the past several years, many of us have traversed a difficult, yet transformative path. We’ve adapted to changes in our jobs, social circles, families, and society at large. For some, this adaptation led to the realization that it was time to part ways with an occupation, mindset, or, in some cases, a significant other. If you’ve found yourself entering the new year as a member of the ex-spouse club, here are some tips to help you navigate the path ahead and make 2024 your best year yet.
Out with the OLD, in with the YOU: Rediscover Yourself.
As Sodoma Law Managing Principal Nicole Sodoma says in her book, Please Don’t Say You’re Sorry, “Divorce sucks, but it doesn’t have to be the worst thing that’s ever happened to you.” For many, January is a time of reflection, but it is important to remember it is also a time of resolution! While you’re reflecting on the changes in your life, both good and bad, that have led you to where you are, remember one very important thing – today is the first day of the rest of your life. Don’t like something? Change it! Been putting something off? Do it! Whether your focus is on improving yourself by exploring a new hobby, rediscovering an old passion, or finally calling that therapist your friend recommended… what are you waiting for? Today is the day!
Resolutions for the Recently Divorced.
For those navigating separation and divorce, resolutions can take on a unique significance. In addition to rediscovering yourself, consider resolutions that go beyond the promises people typically make this time of year. Visualize the person you want to be and the life you want to live as you define your new “normal”. Don’t be afraid to ask yourself the hard questions about what steps you can take to create the life you’ve envisioned. Whether your goal is to embrace a more collaborative co-parenting approach, communicate more effectively with your ex, take more control of your financial well-being, or simply create new traditions to carry forward – use this as an opportunity to lay the foundation for the future you want.
Embrace the Journey Ahead.
Regardless of what brought you here, or what decisions you’ve made about where you’re going next, it’s essential to set clear objectives for you and your family’s life post-divorce. Seek the guidance of family law professionals, counselors, and financial advisors to ensure you are well-prepared for any challenges that may arise. Lean on your existing support network of family and friends. Embrace opportunities for personal growth and positive change. Remember, your past is supposed to shape you, but it doesn’t have to define you.
After the hustle and bustle of the holidays has come and gone, the quiet left in its wake can feel a little too quiet – especially for those who just survived their first holiday season post-divorce. But remember, in the stillness, we often find resilience, inspiration, and courage. As you look forward to new adventures and challenges, resolve to make 2024 a year of rediscovery and empowerment both for you and for your family. Divorce may be behind you but, the even better news is, the rest of your life is ahead of you.