Hint: You Don’t Have To Do It Alone
Undergoing the period of legal separation leading up to divorce can sometimes feel like living the first half of the Friends theme song. If you’re navigating this process and feeling as though it has not been your day, your month, or even your year, just remember – there’s someone there for you! Having the right individuals by your side during this time can help you handle all the emotions that may arise during the separation and divorce process. Creating a divorce support system often helps people gain a sense of control during what is often an uncertain time. The best part? While we have some recommendations, YOU get to choose who gets to be in this group and how involved they get to be in your divorce journey.
Although everyone’s group is different, here are some people you might include in yours:
Family: For many, parents, siblings, grandparents, and even extended family can be a significant source of emotional support. Often, family members may even help pitch in on duties such as childcare, school pickups, and more.
Friends: Family is great, but sometimes we just need to surround ourselves with a few good friends. Friends provide the same emotional support as family members, but often also provide an escape during the divorce process.
Attorneys: Having someone that knows the legal ropes and can advocate for you and help you navigate this process is essential. An experienced family law attorney can help by providing an objective point of view in situations where emotions are high, and a qualified estate planning attorney can help ensure your family is taken care of for years to come.
Mental health professionals: Taking care of your emotional and mental well-being during this time is of utmost importance. For many, seeking the support of a mental health professional not only helps them navigate the feelings and situation they are currently facing, but also better prepares them for the future.
Financial advisors: While many individuals do not realize it, financials can be a big part of the separation process. Having a CPA, or similar professional, as part of your support group can help you navigate the financial side of the separation and process and can provide you with peace of mind when talking about assets, debts, and their division.
Divorce coach: Due to the nature of the legal separation process, some individuals lose their sense of identity. Divorce coaches can help you regain your sense of self and are a great resource for individuals who would like a boost of self-esteem, an accountability partner, or just a little extra general support during their separation and divorce journey.
Divorce support groups: Some individuals find solace talking to others who have been through the same thing or are currently undergoing it. There are many established support groups (or you could create one of your own!) that can provide you with a space to speak freely about your issues, as well as hear from others who have experienced or are currently experiencing similar issues.
Regardless of what your support group looks like, always know you do not have to go through this process alone. When it feels like the rain has started to pour, the attorneys at Sodoma Law will be there for you.